8 Habit That Wreck Your Relationship!

Hey guys... want to know what are the habits that able to wreck your relationship? I found this article form yahoo and it is very useful. I forgot to take the links but u can read it all here..pls.. (credits to the original writer).

#1. Having an affair with his "potential"
Wanting your man to be the best version of himself is admirable, but approaching his looks and personality with "Extreme Makeover" ambition will do little more than erode his self-esteem and leave you both frustrated and resentful. "If you and your partner believe that love means acceptance, pushing him to change and criticizing him is going to send him the opposite message. What he hears is 'you aren't good enough,'" says Nina Atwood, M.Ed., L.P.C., author of "Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid."
How to rebuild: This is where the old 80-20 rule can be used to the benefit of both of you. Spend at least 80 percent of your time together letting your partner know all the things you adore and appreciate about him, so that when you mention something you don't like, it doesn't feel like another item on a long list of failures.

#2. Major mood swings
We're living in some pretty anxiety-inducing times, and when life takes a stressful turn, it's not uncommon for couples to start taking out that stress on each other. While the occasional mood swing can -- and should -- be forgiven, being in a relationship with someone whose bad moods outnumber her good ones can make a man run for cover. Wouldn't you do the same?
How to rebuild: The next time you catch yourself taking a downturn, take a moment to consider what kind of impact your moods are having on your man and the relationship. "If a woman is too moody, we start to walk on eggshells because we just don't want to deal with the drama," says Matt, 31, of San Diego.

#3. Gossip
Talking to pals about your love life is a normal part of friendship, but if you're calling your BFF, your sister, and your mom every time your man pisses you off, you're not only going to wind up embarrassed when the storm passes, you'll also find yourself in a relationship with someone who feels violated and judged. "As a couple, private information should stay private or you risk damaging your reputation as a couple, which in turn may isolate you from others and sever your relationship," says Dan Schawbel, personal branding expert and author of "Me: 2.0." Remember that word of mouth is a powerful force, and it can hurt your reputation if your mate or others brand you as untrustworthy."
How to rebuild: The next time you log on to his computer and find an improper download, resist the urge to get on the phone and vent to your top five. Instead, sit down and talk things out with the one person who can help you work through it. If you're not sure how to approach him about a certain topic, sit down and write him a letter. (Helpful hint: Sit on it for 24 hours to make sure it says what you really want to say and isn't just filled with angry words and blame.)

#4. Melodrama
If you're calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument, and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. "Men have a tendency to really like low-maintenance girls when it comes to relationships," says Kristian, 35, of New York City. "We're pretty lazy in general, and it's exhausting when you need to work so hard to make someone happy and calm them down every day."
How to rebuild: Save the details of your office drama for brunch with the girls, and the next time you feel your inner Heidi Montag moving center stage, take a deep breath and rate the situation on a scale from 1 to 10. If it scores below a 5, let it go and save award-worthy performances for anything above a 9 (cheating, insulting your boss at your holiday party, etc.).

#5. "Mom-ing" him
Your man loves his mama and he loves you, but when you're the one telling him to stop playing Guitar Hero, scoffing at his lack of manners, or informing him he can't go out with his pals because he has a "big day tomorrow," it's anything but appealing. He'll not only resent that you're trying to control him, but he'll also likely do what all children do when they're being reprimanded -- rebel. "Scolding your mate creates an unhealthy dynamic of parent-child relationship, which automatically puts your partner into a child role and you into the role of mom," says Jeannine Estes, M.A, a marriage and family therapist and author of "Relationships in the Raw." "Children often do the opposite when they feel as if they don't have a choice, and this is similar for couples."
How to rebuild: "Instead of scolding or telling him what to do or not do, try to ask for your needs in a clear and respectful way and avoid using the 'mother' tone," says Estes. "Share with your partner the importance of your needs rather than demanding or scoffing at what he has or hasn't done right. Also, scolding him like you are his mother can put you in a parent role, carrying the relationship without any assistance or partnership."

#6. Too much together time
Spending time with your guy is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, but there's a big difference between bonding and being joined at the hip. "Many men are attracted to secure, independent women," says Stacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D, a New York City psychologist. "Once in relationships, women may tend to become more dependent, to demand more time and attention of their partners. This can represent a problem, as often men need more space than women."
How to rebuild: Remind your guy of the independent and fabulous woman he was initially attracted to by indulging in your favorite pastimes and enjoying your friends without him every once in a while. By flashing your independence, you'll not only give him a chance to miss you but also have interesting things to share with him when you meet up.

#7. Jealousy
He lets you know how much he loves you constantly, but that doesn't stop you from checking his phone when he's in the shower or sending every pretty girl he talks to eye-daggers. Although a tiny bit of jealousy in a relationship is normal, accusing your man of cheating and questioning his whereabouts every time he walks in will have him feeling controlled, manipulated, and insulted. "Jealousy in a relationship, or even personally, is the spiritual equivalent of dumping hydrochloric acid on the person," says 33-year-old Marc from Los Angeles. "Just sit back and prepare for the disintegration."
How to rebuild: Unless your man has said or done things to make you suspicious, your jealousy is more about your relationship with yourself than you two as a couple. Back away from his computer and check out your own history. Were you betrayed in the past? Did you grow up in a household where the fidelity vows were broken? There might be ways in which you are allowing unresolved issues from your past to dictate your present behavior. If you don't feel you can overcome the green monster on your own, don't be afraid to reach out to a qualified counselor who can help you identify the sources of your insecurity and work through them.

#8. Getting too comfortable
In the beginning of a relationship, both parties make sure to look and act their best, but as time moves on, the sweatpants come out and routine takes over. "People tend to get lazy in their relationships, and while it's good to be comfortable, no one wants to be boring or to be bored," says Lissa Coffey, author of "What's Your Dosha, Baby? Discover the Vedic Way for Compatibility in Life and Love."
How to rebuild: Men love to be seduced and romanced as much as we do, and part of what makes the courtship phase of relationships so fun is the experience of uncovering the mystery of another and trying new things together. "When a woman stops making an effort to look nice for her man and expects him to take care of all the stuff in the romance department, a man begins to feel taken for granted and thinks that she doesn't care about impressing him anymore," says Brian, 30, of New York City. Show your guy he's still worth the effort by surprising him with a break from the ratty T-shirt you wear to bed, a sweet note, or planning a special night out for him "just because." He'll not only appreciate it, he'll also reciprocate -- and that's a give and take to get excited about.

Meaning beyond your FLIRT name!

Everybody has a name .. or names.. are they? Me either have a name. Here..
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It reads as “Slash dash slash vertical line underscore slash dash slash…” you know the rest. I don’t have to explain it.
Ok now, here is the definition or the meaning beyond your name… try it. It wont hurt and absolutely free.

A – You do your thinking in silent manner
B – You take cautions to each new person you know
C - You are funny and have the courage to take it in action
D – Hard for you to trust others
E – You are charming
F – Everybody loves you
G –You have your own strength to evaluate someone
H - You don’t like to punish others
I – You like to smile and make everybody smiles back to you
J – You are jealous
K – You like to try something new
L – You believe that love is serious matter and need to be appreciated
M – Easy for you to successful
N – You like to work but at the same time, you’d like to take some rest
O – You are open minded
P – You are warm and understanding person
Q – You are hypocrite
R – You are social person
S – You have this wide perspective manner
T – You have a great creditability
U – You think that you are equal with others
V – You have the look and shape
W – You like privacy
X – You don’t listen to advice
Y - You are the trouble maker
Z - You are fighter

Remaja Magazine, October 2007 issue (page 140)

Car colour- Clue to your personality

The Malaysian Women’s Weekly- November 2001 issue (Page 142) tells that our pick to car’s colour can reveal our personality. The study is based on ancient Egyptians beliefs that colour was the key to our emotions, individuality and even physical well-being. Today, studies have proven that your choice of car colour is one of the biggest clues to your personality. Research has shown that customers are always drawn to the car colour that connects them to their true temperament.

Silver
You’re a go-getter
Silver is the colour of aeroplanes, rocket ships and speeding bullets – and just like those, you move at breakneck speed. Silver car owners are not likely to dwell on problems. Instead, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and take action! No roadblock slows you down; whether it’s a tight budget or leaky sink you confront obstacles by dreaming up your unique solutions. Though you may sometimes get discouraged, you never let things get you down- and the results you get when you try and try again are amazing.

Black
You reach for the stars
Just like the little black dress, a black car symbolises powerm prestige and elegance, although you’re happy with your job, friends and lived ones, you strive towards elevating yourself whenever you can. Whether you exercise regularly at the gym or save your extra grocery marketing money for the kids’ university fees, your philosophy is “You’ll never get anywhere if you don’t try!” that’s why you and your family are on your way up- full speed ahead.

White
You’re the queen of reason
White car-lovers tend to be calm and collected, assessing the while picture before reacting, since you’re such a reasonable person, other trust you to handle problems in a fair manner. Your calm determination always gets the job done – but when the road gets rocky, let your heart lead the way. It’ll never steer you wrong.

Red
You’re fuelled by emotion
Red-car buyers have passionate temperaments that are fuelled by their emotions and run on their instinct. Since you’re so in tune with your intuition, your choices are usually right on target! Your natural intuition makes you sensitive to the unspoken signals of others, and friends often marvel your ‘sixth sense’ for picking up on hidden details. That’s why your advice – and our counsel – are so highly valued.

Green
You’re generous
Traditionally, green is not only the colour of money, but also of generosity and faith. That’s why green-car owners are the first to give of their time and money when others are in need. And because you like to see people happy, you delight in giving gifts and often bring home little trinkets for a loved one. Your belief that it’s better to give than to receive ensures you’ll always travel along the road to fulfilment.

Blue
You’re optimistic
Blue-car owners drive on the sunny side of the street because they’re optimistic people. Your good humour is so appreciated that everyone you know feels a little lighter once they’ve spent a few minutes with you! His upbeat attitude keeps you healthy and youthful – and winds you enough good friends to fill a people-mover van.

The Natural Love Bites in Your Body has a meaning!

I had this mole next to my upper lips (just like Cindy Crawford) and I wonder if there is any mean.Instead of looking someone’s butt, we can also predict someone’s character by locate the moles (a.k.a moleoscopy) in their skin Said the Cleo Magazine. The shape and location of moles on the body indicate a lot about a person’s character. It says that the bigger, darker and multiple moles have more significance that smaller, lighter and less-noticeable ones. Check this out!

Forehead: If located on the right side, you’re very lucky; recognition, honours, fame and great wealth could be yours. If it’s on the left, life will be a bit of struggle and you’ll have to work hard for success.

Eyebrows: a mole between your brows indicates that you’re excitable, active and a deep thinker. The larger it is, the more selfish you can be, and you need to keep your ego in check.

Eyes, or close to: indicates honesty and forthrightness, but can also mean low self-esteem and a need for lots of attention and love. Be careful who you choose as friend and lovers.

Nose: you’re sincere, loyal and an excellent marriage or business partner. You can also achieve wealth no matter what circumstances life brings you.

Cheeks: You’re serious, spiritual and always searching fro life’s purpose. You’re not interested in superficial relationships or wealth - you’d rather find inner peace and meaning.

Lips, or close to: You’re never satisfied, always searching for perfection within yourself and are very self-critical. The more towards the left the mole is, the more you tend to dwell on the past and yearn for greener pastures.

Chin: You love challenges and none are too big to face – you strive for success and will achieve a lot through your conscientious and commonsense approach to life.

Neck: You’re sincere, shy, gently and classy, and quite selective with your friends and lovers. You’ll have ups and downs in life, but you’ll get through them all and come out on top.

Shoulders: You excel in sports. A mole on your left shoulder can reveal a tendency to be easily satisfied, which can lead to happiness, while one on the right shoulder indicates you’re careful and loyal yet a little restless.

Arms: If it’s on the left arm, you’re polite, serious and determined on the right shoulder indicates you’re careful and yet a little restless.
Chest: You’re family-oriented but can struggle with finances and tend to be a little lazy at times.

Breasts: A mole on the right breast means you’re good in relationships but sometimes can be argumentative and a bit of a troublemaker; one on the left reveals you’re active, health-conscious and interested in outdoor activities.

Stomach: You love a good time, food and good friends, but you can sometimes be a little self-indulgent. You may also have a weakness for gambling and be a tad impatient.

Bottom: Indicates that you’re highly sexed but lacking in ambition.

Legs: You’ll experience many changes in life and perhaps even live in a foreign country. You’re adaptable to change, always moving and changing jobs. A mole on the left leg can indicate a bad temper and possible laziness; on the right reveals that you are energetic but may run from commitments.

Feet: You need to feel secure and don’t really like taking big risks. You’re thoughtful, willing to share, practical and have a good sense of humour.

Butt Reading

Do you believe that we can read someone’s character based on their physical? I don’t know but CLEO Magazine on their July 2007 issue (Page 220) mentioned that we can be a psychic by reading man’s bum and tell our future. Butt reading – scarily accurate methods that will unlock your destiny just by gawking at his behind! Check it out!

Kiwi Fruit
Someone with a small, firm, tight butt holds their emotions inside and runs on nervous energy. If they don’t learn how to get those emotions out, they could have disasters love affairs, which start off strong but then end for no real reason. High levels of stress can lead to physical symptoms, so it’s important to stay healthy, exercise and eat correctly. Drama is also more likely for this group.

Pear
These people are very passionate about everything, and they make great lovers with the right person. They’re very popular with the opposite sex, and can sometimes be led to temptation, so they need someone really special who’ll keep them from getting restless. Goal-oriented, pears are very successful in life. They’re also great mates, loyal friends and lovers of family tradition and children.

Bean
They can be a bit of a know-it-all, but they’re very funny, down-to-earth and extremely loyal, as well as very loving and talkative. In extreme cases some beans are very tight with money. They’re forever starting something new, like exercise, a diet or study course, but can lack the willpower to finish what they started unless they see success early on.

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Watermelon
If their bottom is shapely and firm, they’re sensual and enjoy all that life has to offer. Watermelons are very good listeners, ambitious but can sometimes be insecure. They hold a lot of other people’s secret, and are often misunderstood, so they must ensure they clarify their thoughts when talking with others. This group loves music and also appreciates family.

Peach
This type of loves harmony and is well-balanced with an even temper. Generally optimistic, they’re very adaptable to change, and need challenges otherwise they could become bored. They may appear shy and reserved around love matters, but watch them - they are highly sexed with the right partner. Peaches are honest with traditional values, but can be people pleasers at times.

Orange
Like being busy, and will attract many friends from all walks of life. They’re charismatic, highly talented and excellent communicators but, most of all, they’re hard working. Their choice of partner is very important as they can’t stand clinging vines – they desperately need their freedom. Oranges also refuse to tolerate fools and have a shrewd business sense.