Hey guys... want to know what are the habits that able to wreck your relationship? I found this article form yahoo and it is very useful. I forgot to take the links but u can read it all here..pls.. (credits to the original writer).
#1. Having an affair with his "potential"
Wanting your man to be the best version of himself is admirable, but approaching his looks and personality with "Extreme Makeover" ambition will do little more than erode his self-esteem and leave you both frustrated and resentful. "If you and your partner believe that love means acceptance, pushing him to change and criticizing him is going to send him the opposite message. What he hears is 'you aren't good enough,'" says Nina Atwood, M.Ed., L.P.C., author of "Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid."
How to rebuild: This is where the old 80-20 rule can be used to the benefit of both of you. Spend at least 80 percent of your time together letting your partner know all the things you adore and appreciate about him, so that when you mention something you don't like, it doesn't feel like another item on a long list of failures.
#2. Major mood swings
We're living in some pretty anxiety-inducing times, and when life takes a stressful turn, it's not uncommon for couples to start taking out that stress on each other. While the occasional mood swing can -- and should -- be forgiven, being in a relationship with someone whose bad moods outnumber her good ones can make a man run for cover. Wouldn't you do the same?
How to rebuild: The next time you catch yourself taking a downturn, take a moment to consider what kind of impact your moods are having on your man and the relationship. "If a woman is too moody, we start to walk on eggshells because we just don't want to deal with the drama," says Matt, 31, of San Diego.
#3. Gossip
Talking to pals about your love life is a normal part of friendship, but if you're calling your BFF, your sister, and your mom every time your man pisses you off, you're not only going to wind up embarrassed when the storm passes, you'll also find yourself in a relationship with someone who feels violated and judged. "As a couple, private information should stay private or you risk damaging your reputation as a couple, which in turn may isolate you from others and sever your relationship," says Dan Schawbel, personal branding expert and author of "Me: 2.0." Remember that word of mouth is a powerful force, and it can hurt your reputation if your mate or others brand you as untrustworthy."
How to rebuild: The next time you log on to his computer and find an improper download, resist the urge to get on the phone and vent to your top five. Instead, sit down and talk things out with the one person who can help you work through it. If you're not sure how to approach him about a certain topic, sit down and write him a letter. (Helpful hint: Sit on it for 24 hours to make sure it says what you really want to say and isn't just filled with angry words and blame.)
#4. Melodrama
If you're calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument, and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. "Men have a tendency to really like low-maintenance girls when it comes to relationships," says Kristian, 35, of New York City. "We're pretty lazy in general, and it's exhausting when you need to work so hard to make someone happy and calm them down every day."
How to rebuild: Save the details of your office drama for brunch with the girls, and the next time you feel your inner Heidi Montag moving center stage, take a deep breath and rate the situation on a scale from 1 to 10. If it scores below a 5, let it go and save award-worthy performances for anything above a 9 (cheating, insulting your boss at your holiday party, etc.).
#5. "Mom-ing" him
Your man loves his mama and he loves you, but when you're the one telling him to stop playing Guitar Hero, scoffing at his lack of manners, or informing him he can't go out with his pals because he has a "big day tomorrow," it's anything but appealing. He'll not only resent that you're trying to control him, but he'll also likely do what all children do when they're being reprimanded -- rebel. "Scolding your mate creates an unhealthy dynamic of parent-child relationship, which automatically puts your partner into a child role and you into the role of mom," says Jeannine Estes, M.A, a marriage and family therapist and author of "Relationships in the Raw." "Children often do the opposite when they feel as if they don't have a choice, and this is similar for couples."
How to rebuild: "Instead of scolding or telling him what to do or not do, try to ask for your needs in a clear and respectful way and avoid using the 'mother' tone," says Estes. "Share with your partner the importance of your needs rather than demanding or scoffing at what he has or hasn't done right. Also, scolding him like you are his mother can put you in a parent role, carrying the relationship without any assistance or partnership."
#6. Too much together time
Spending time with your guy is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, but there's a big difference between bonding and being joined at the hip. "Many men are attracted to secure, independent women," says Stacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D, a New York City psychologist. "Once in relationships, women may tend to become more dependent, to demand more time and attention of their partners. This can represent a problem, as often men need more space than women."
How to rebuild: Remind your guy of the independent and fabulous woman he was initially attracted to by indulging in your favorite pastimes and enjoying your friends without him every once in a while. By flashing your independence, you'll not only give him a chance to miss you but also have interesting things to share with him when you meet up.
#7. Jealousy
He lets you know how much he loves you constantly, but that doesn't stop you from checking his phone when he's in the shower or sending every pretty girl he talks to eye-daggers. Although a tiny bit of jealousy in a relationship is normal, accusing your man of cheating and questioning his whereabouts every time he walks in will have him feeling controlled, manipulated, and insulted. "Jealousy in a relationship, or even personally, is the spiritual equivalent of dumping hydrochloric acid on the person," says 33-year-old Marc from Los Angeles. "Just sit back and prepare for the disintegration."
How to rebuild: Unless your man has said or done things to make you suspicious, your jealousy is more about your relationship with yourself than you two as a couple. Back away from his computer and check out your own history. Were you betrayed in the past? Did you grow up in a household where the fidelity vows were broken? There might be ways in which you are allowing unresolved issues from your past to dictate your present behavior. If you don't feel you can overcome the green monster on your own, don't be afraid to reach out to a qualified counselor who can help you identify the sources of your insecurity and work through them.
#8. Getting too comfortable
In the beginning of a relationship, both parties make sure to look and act their best, but as time moves on, the sweatpants come out and routine takes over. "People tend to get lazy in their relationships, and while it's good to be comfortable, no one wants to be boring or to be bored," says Lissa Coffey, author of "What's Your Dosha, Baby? Discover the Vedic Way for Compatibility in Life and Love."
How to rebuild: Men love to be seduced and romanced as much as we do, and part of what makes the courtship phase of relationships so fun is the experience of uncovering the mystery of another and trying new things together. "When a woman stops making an effort to look nice for her man and expects him to take care of all the stuff in the romance department, a man begins to feel taken for granted and thinks that she doesn't care about impressing him anymore," says Brian, 30, of New York City. Show your guy he's still worth the effort by surprising him with a break from the ratty T-shirt you wear to bed, a sweet note, or planning a special night out for him "just because." He'll not only appreciate it, he'll also reciprocate -- and that's a give and take to get excited about.
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Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Spelling Error #2
Whether we realize or not, we made lots of mistake regarding spelling. Even an adult cannot run away from this problem. I witnessed some spelling error around the places that I visited. I saw a butcher spells 'hotdog' as 'hodok'. A waiter wrote 'borking' which mean 'booking' in a piece of paper to tell people that the table is not avaiable (supposed to say booked or taken). But, let me show you this ....
This kid wanted to write "otot yang saya gunakan hari ini.." but she spelled it "toto yang saya gunakan hari ini..". Its in Malay and whats funny was the word 'otot' (muscle) spelled in other way as 'toto' which is bad words. 'Toto' which refers to vagi*a is a slang (at least I consider it as slang since I dont know what race own that language). So, if you translated that sentence, it sounded in english as "the vagi*na that I used today are..".. and the lists continued... ain't if funny?? or not funny at all? But for me, this is not happen on all day, so its funny :)
Normally, people spelled wrong because of of lack of knowledge and education especially adult, and second is, it is occur to begineers (primary student). This is just my opinion. It is whether we dont know how to spell or we typed / write it wrong. So, what ever is it, who cares what 'toto' that is being used because after all, size does matter.. hahah.. look!
** I tried to change the position but it wont work... but never mind lah.. as long as readable..
This kid wanted to write "otot yang saya gunakan hari ini.." but she spelled it "toto yang saya gunakan hari ini..". Its in Malay and whats funny was the word 'otot' (muscle) spelled in other way as 'toto' which is bad words. 'Toto' which refers to vagi*a is a slang (at least I consider it as slang since I dont know what race own that language). So, if you translated that sentence, it sounded in english as "the vagi*na that I used today are..".. and the lists continued... ain't if funny?? or not funny at all? But for me, this is not happen on all day, so its funny :)
Normally, people spelled wrong because of of lack of knowledge and education especially adult, and second is, it is occur to begineers (primary student). This is just my opinion. It is whether we dont know how to spell or we typed / write it wrong. So, what ever is it, who cares what 'toto' that is being used because after all, size does matter.. hahah.. look!
** I tried to change the position but it wont work... but never mind lah.. as long as readable..
Sunday, July 6, 2008
How To Save Your Fuel?
For the past three years I owned a car, I never seen this situation before.. a Shell kiosk and Petronas kiosk center in my hometown were this crowd! (picture taken on June 4th, 2008).
These gas kiosks were crowd with cars since 4.00 p.m because of the pricing adjustment made by the Malaysian Goverment. The new price of petrol is RM2.70 per litre and diesel for RM 2.58 per litre. I have to queue up for almost an hour. Look, these cars still got a long way to get loaded!
Since we are facing the energy source issue, I think a precaution has to be taken to ensure economic way of using these nature based source. Please read my crazy tips to save your fuel.
1. In fact that the lighter your vehicle, the less fuel it uses. Therefore, decrease your cars’ weight by remove all the accessories including your car’s lips, additional bumper and skirts. For your betterment, change all the iron made of your car to plastic if possible. Please remember that, you should decrease you body weight also to ensure the car can carry you and your family easily.
2. Reduce your gas usage by turn your car off when go downhill and in the traffic light. This tip is as seen as on TV (Maxis advetistment).
3. You also can share cars with your friends or colleagues. Remember that sharing is caring. But this is sometimes uncomfortable to do so. First, if your friend late, then you’ll be late too. Second, you don’t want to share your BMW or you don’t want to sit on Kancil. Third, still, you still have to chip in your pocket money to your friend. You can also go anywhere by turning off your engine off but cars in motion. How? Tie your car with other moving vehicle that is same direction to your destination. You are still in your car, right? And it is moving!
4. Change your engine. High performance engine consumes more fuel, smaller engine need less fuel to function. I don’t expect you to switch your Toyota Passo engine to BMW’s or Toyota SUV with Honda City’s engine. They’re all using fuel. Try water as your fuel. Remember locomotive? It uses stim!
5. Still not satisfy? Why don’t you use bicycle? Gas-less, economic, easy to use, affordable maintenance. If still not satisfy, just walk ok!
I hope you’re enjoy for this short commentary from me. Thank you for! Heheh..
These gas kiosks were crowd with cars since 4.00 p.m because of the pricing adjustment made by the Malaysian Goverment. The new price of petrol is RM2.70 per litre and diesel for RM 2.58 per litre. I have to queue up for almost an hour. Look, these cars still got a long way to get loaded!
Since we are facing the energy source issue, I think a precaution has to be taken to ensure economic way of using these nature based source. Please read my crazy tips to save your fuel.
1. In fact that the lighter your vehicle, the less fuel it uses. Therefore, decrease your cars’ weight by remove all the accessories including your car’s lips, additional bumper and skirts. For your betterment, change all the iron made of your car to plastic if possible. Please remember that, you should decrease you body weight also to ensure the car can carry you and your family easily.
2. Reduce your gas usage by turn your car off when go downhill and in the traffic light. This tip is as seen as on TV (Maxis advetistment).
3. You also can share cars with your friends or colleagues. Remember that sharing is caring. But this is sometimes uncomfortable to do so. First, if your friend late, then you’ll be late too. Second, you don’t want to share your BMW or you don’t want to sit on Kancil. Third, still, you still have to chip in your pocket money to your friend. You can also go anywhere by turning off your engine off but cars in motion. How? Tie your car with other moving vehicle that is same direction to your destination. You are still in your car, right? And it is moving!
4. Change your engine. High performance engine consumes more fuel, smaller engine need less fuel to function. I don’t expect you to switch your Toyota Passo engine to BMW’s or Toyota SUV with Honda City’s engine. They’re all using fuel. Try water as your fuel. Remember locomotive? It uses stim!
5. Still not satisfy? Why don’t you use bicycle? Gas-less, economic, easy to use, affordable maintenance. If still not satisfy, just walk ok!
I hope you’re enjoy for this short commentary from me. Thank you for! Heheh..
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
MOSTI Exhibition
Date : 24 May 2008
Venue : Kota Marudu.
I went to see an exhibition organized by the MOSTI (Ministry of Science and Information Technology). This exhibition is also organized due to Kaamatan Celebration for this district. There are many departments and NGO involved in this exhibition including agriculture department, meteorology department, chemistry department, banks (BSN and AgroBank) etc.
These are some of my favorite pictures to share with you.
This 'thing' is used to measure you hand battery. According to the explaination, the moist of our hands contain ion.
I cannot solve this puzzle.. (form a shape of T and an arrow using the shapes).
This kakak explains how to register domain name with extention dot my (.my). According to her, a rent for a domain name can cost almost RM100.. gila!
5 Spartan tablet = RM50. Cheap? These kakak laughing when I tried to capture their image in front of the Spartan tablet. A man, whosoever consume this tablet can play longer in the bed.. hmmm.. patutlah these kakak malu2.. heheh
Venue : Kota Marudu.
I went to see an exhibition organized by the MOSTI (Ministry of Science and Information Technology). This exhibition is also organized due to Kaamatan Celebration for this district. There are many departments and NGO involved in this exhibition including agriculture department, meteorology department, chemistry department, banks (BSN and AgroBank) etc.
These are some of my favorite pictures to share with you.
This 'thing' is used to measure you hand battery. According to the explaination, the moist of our hands contain ion.
I cannot solve this puzzle.. (form a shape of T and an arrow using the shapes).
This kakak explains how to register domain name with extention dot my (.my). According to her, a rent for a domain name can cost almost RM100.. gila!
5 Spartan tablet = RM50. Cheap? These kakak laughing when I tried to capture their image in front of the Spartan tablet. A man, whosoever consume this tablet can play longer in the bed.. hmmm.. patutlah these kakak malu2.. heheh
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Tyre Banks
I hope I don’t confuse anyone here with this title Tyre Banks because it seems like Tyra Banks in glimpse but it wasn’t. This is not a story about Tyra Banks (former modeling) but it is about a place where all the tyres are placed. A friend who just got her tyre punctured gives me idea to write this post.
It begins when my tyre got punctured and it was 7.15 in the afternoon. It is already dark and I don’t know where exactly I am.. like it was in the middle of no where. From afar I can see a tiny dot of light that belong to villager house. I realize am away from it and even away 7 km from my house (estimate ok!). So, I just pull all the tools I need and it!.. 40 minutes later, my red car is ready to hit the road! I’m so grateful that my day was fine and that ‘puncture’ things didn’t gives me fatal accident… therefore guys, drive safe and please make sure that you car is in good condition before bring them to broooommmmmmm!
Look at its wound!.. so bad!
There you go baby.. new pampers ok.. hehe
It begins when my tyre got punctured and it was 7.15 in the afternoon. It is already dark and I don’t know where exactly I am.. like it was in the middle of no where. From afar I can see a tiny dot of light that belong to villager house. I realize am away from it and even away 7 km from my house (estimate ok!). So, I just pull all the tools I need and it!.. 40 minutes later, my red car is ready to hit the road! I’m so grateful that my day was fine and that ‘puncture’ things didn’t gives me fatal accident… therefore guys, drive safe and please make sure that you car is in good condition before bring them to broooommmmmmm!
Look at its wound!.. so bad!
There you go baby.. new pampers ok.. hehe
Sunday, October 21, 2007
BLACKLISTED!??
Familiar with this word blacklisted? Been dealing with it before? I have and still on. It happened in my past. I have an old friend who happened to be a lover with someone that at last became my new friend. This old friend of mine is kind of freaky, sad ass liar, into exaggerating and once this old friend gets angry, it mess up with everybody in the room. Know what I am saying? This new friend of mine who commit loving this old friend BUT unable to handle / tackle this old friend’s egos. What an immature attitude to settle down problems by crying..hmmm..thats them. To be honest, they both have issues. That has made my life turned up and down, always caught in the middle when they were fighting. And because of my old friend had messed up with their skunk gang and they cannot afford to pay back, they find another target – me. They start to compare each inch of my action with this old friend. This is so sick. I don’t think I need to earn their damn thing just because my friend has mess up with them. What could be worse when all the people in the same house shared history of mouth-mouth fighting? Let myself got involved? No way! I doubt my survival. I need revival and so I’ve pulled my ass back before it hits my head. What a hard decision. And now, they were broken up and the gang turned they back on me.. they deleted my phone number and not even talking. What a pathetic way of revenge. Immature- what can I say? Last thing I did was to save their asses so that they will be together but what I’ve got? Blacklisted! Very ungrateful!
Lies, Denial and then Truth!
At first, I dont think I would like to post this thought of mine. But thinking it was my effort to write and consider it as one of my 'writing' is valuable, then here I go. I was on duty as a checkpoint in the Merdeka Marathon when I wrote this. I felt so boring so I make this new post to my blog. Last night, I saw that person online and as usual, we didn’t talk. Actually I am tired of being denied. Our last conversation was in SMS. I think everybody will agree with me that this is kind of denial “Siapa ni?..Napa? Ada hal penting?”
This is only a kind. I received lot more. By the way, I was hung up twice before that SMS. Think, if you were me, you trusted that person, u respect that person, you have no intention to disturb, you were sincere to at least to say ‘how r u?’ .. Will you ever imagine to have replied like this? Tell me what it feels when you tried to call someone- you were hung up, then after introduce yourself, you got such kind of SMS? Piss off man! I get it now. All the feeling that the person has given me wasn’t genuine. It derived from desperation with another person which is then stimulated to me. Noting more, nothing else, nothing less. Think back, is this what the person means by ‘teman tapi mesra’? Well, yeah.. teman tapi mesra my ass! LMAO.
Of course I was dump already. No big deal and I don’t want to say bad things or complaint about it… It is just that I’m so relieve because I know the truth about what was going on. TRUTH comes after LIES. I’m fine! In fact, DENIAL is cover to the LIES. It is not my best interest to lead on and not a good intention to punish someone. All I wanted to do is to move on to be what I am…keeping the truth that I have no place to stay in that person’s heart. Sooner or later, I will learn to love my solitude.
This is only a kind. I received lot more. By the way, I was hung up twice before that SMS. Think, if you were me, you trusted that person, u respect that person, you have no intention to disturb, you were sincere to at least to say ‘how r u?’ .. Will you ever imagine to have replied like this? Tell me what it feels when you tried to call someone- you were hung up, then after introduce yourself, you got such kind of SMS? Piss off man! I get it now. All the feeling that the person has given me wasn’t genuine. It derived from desperation with another person which is then stimulated to me. Noting more, nothing else, nothing less. Think back, is this what the person means by ‘teman tapi mesra’? Well, yeah.. teman tapi mesra my ass! LMAO.
Of course I was dump already. No big deal and I don’t want to say bad things or complaint about it… It is just that I’m so relieve because I know the truth about what was going on. TRUTH comes after LIES. I’m fine! In fact, DENIAL is cover to the LIES. It is not my best interest to lead on and not a good intention to punish someone. All I wanted to do is to move on to be what I am…keeping the truth that I have no place to stay in that person’s heart. Sooner or later, I will learn to love my solitude.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Preface
"In my whole life, I long to see for someone how different I am. You did. And for that you will be always in my heart. But what I need was for me to see it. Now I understand. You are sweet and precious for me, but you are living in the world that is NO PLACE for someone like me"
I always believe that love will leave us someday.. but somehow, love will lead you back. It might the same love or perhaps other love. But one thing we know is that we are never alone. This world is quite challenging. Nevertheless, we can say that our prison is walking tru this world all alone. The loneliness always looking for a friend. It chases us just like the wave of ocean fly tru our head and got drowned (if we dont know how to swim!).
Someone has told me that tears come as long as smile. We cant predict what will happen in the future. Thats what we called it life. Life is a journey. No wonder, people say that life is beautiful. That why, treasure all the memories we have and look back - whatever's gone on in your life - it's not too hard to be positive and look ahead, with more pleasant of the memories to make the journey a little easier. And these very memories which I cherish so, are the reasons behind why I started blogging.
I always believe that love will leave us someday.. but somehow, love will lead you back. It might the same love or perhaps other love. But one thing we know is that we are never alone. This world is quite challenging. Nevertheless, we can say that our prison is walking tru this world all alone. The loneliness always looking for a friend. It chases us just like the wave of ocean fly tru our head and got drowned (if we dont know how to swim!).
Someone has told me that tears come as long as smile. We cant predict what will happen in the future. Thats what we called it life. Life is a journey. No wonder, people say that life is beautiful. That why, treasure all the memories we have and look back - whatever's gone on in your life - it's not too hard to be positive and look ahead, with more pleasant of the memories to make the journey a little easier. And these very memories which I cherish so, are the reasons behind why I started blogging.
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